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Do you ever feel alone?

Not in the sense that you are in a room by yourself, but alone in the sense that you feel if you were to possibly explain the frustrations or hurts in your life people wouldn’t really “get it” or if they did they would just offer weightless or generic advice?

Right now, I have friends who are dealing with issues.

A wide range of issues.

Fertility. Financial. Family. Fidelity. Friendships.

Chances are, sometime in your life, you will deal with one of the five above too. I know I have had my life dip into a few of those categories.

What I’ve learned and observed about struggles, is you need to accept two truths.

You aren’t in control of your life.

You may want a certain outcome. You may wish you had the answers. You may try to fix things on your own.

12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. 13 You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.

Jeremiah 29:12-13

We are told to call, come, pray, and seek. With our whole heart. We aren’t told to worry, wish away, or try to manipulate our struggles. Our efforts are in vain if any part of our heart is consumed in those meaningless areas. He wants our whole heart seeking. Your efforts to change your situation won’t always change the struggle, but your efforts to seek the Lord and His purpose for allowing the struggle will refine you through your struggle.

Sometimes, no one will be on your side.

Sometimes you will feel completely alone.

The medical world is failing you.

The bank account doesn’t show the numbers you need it to.

Your family doesn’t understand you.

Your spouse doesn’t care.

Your friends don’t reciprocate the relationship.

Sometimes everything seems one sided, and you feel as though no one is fighting for you.

13 And Moses said to the people, “Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the Lord, which he will work for you today. For the Egyptians whom you see today, you shall never see again. 14 The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.” 15 The Lord said to Moses, “Why do you cry to me? Tell the people of Israel to go forward. 16 Lift up your staff, and stretch out your hand over the sea and divide it, that the people of Israel may go through the sea on dry ground. Exodus 14:13-16

The Lord will fight for you, but He may ask you to take action. These verses happen right as the Israelites have been freed from slavery from the Egyptians, but the Egyptians kinda change their mind and are like ‘jk’ and come after them. Moses instructs the people to stand firm, saying the Lord will fight for you, you just need to be silent. Here silence isn’t a non-action. It’s an action, to listen. To wait for instruction. Just as before in Jeremiah, there is very much a role we need to play in our relationship with God, it isn’t one sided. If you feel alone in your struggle, have you allowed yourself to realize God is the only one who needs to be on your side? If you’ve acknowledged that, have you asked Him to fight for you?

God wants us to call, come, pray and seek. He wants us to take action too. He wants your whole self on board. It isn’t a half-hearted generic “whatever you ask me to do Lord” and then waiting around not asking the very specific “what is it you want me to do?”, it’s a bold “Tell me right now what to do, and I’ll act as if my life depends on it.” Because, it does. Your life depends on letting God defend you. If you depend on others to defend you, you will be disappointed. If you try to defend yourself, you will fail.

So when He tells you He will fight for you and defend you, let Him. Trust that when He takes you through something difficult – it is not a path of loneliness He has sent you down. It is a path of intimacy, where He is waiting to reveal Himself to you if only you would call to Him, come to Him, pray to Him, seek Him, and be ready to act when He asks you to.

Tell Him you need Him, and then listen to what He asks of you.

Check out this song that’s been ministering to me, I’ve bolded some of the parts of the song that really move me.

Matt Maher – Lord I need you

Lord, I come, I confess
Bowing here I find my rest
Without You I fall apart
You’re the One that guides my heart

Lord, I need You, oh, I need You
Every hour I need You
My one defense, my righteousness
Oh God, how I need You

Where sin runs deep Your grace is more
Where grace is found is where You are
And where You are, Lord, I am free
Holiness is Christ in me

Lord, I need You, oh, I need You
Every hour I need You
My one defense, my righteousness
Oh God, how I need You

Teach my song to rise to You
When temptation comes my way
And when I cannot stand I’ll fall on You
Jesus, You’re my hope and stay

Lord, I need You, oh, I need You
Every hour I need You
My one defense, my righteousness
Oh God, how I need You

You’re my one defense, my righteousness
Oh God, how I need You
My one defense, my righteousness
Oh God, how I need You


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